The External Saboteurs
Most people on a weight loss program, or a those passionate about healthy diet & exercise would have experienced negativity and sabotage from other people at one time or another. More often that not it comes from friends, family, and colleagues rather than strangers. Sometimes it’s deliberate, sometimes it’s subconscious.
It’s important to recognise these techniques and be conscious of them when they occur – and don’t be suckered by their tricks. There are many reasons for sabotage including jealousy, over competitiveness, control, fear of change. Some people don’t want their partners to become more attractive to the opposite sex, and some don’t want their friends or families to be more attractive than them.
Typical Sabotage Techniques are:
1) Negative & degrading comments such as “you will never do it” – (Quite obvious)
2) Encouragement to eat and drink poor foods and/or not to exercise. E.g. “Go on, it won’t kill you”, “It’s your birthday”, “Don’t be so boring” (More subtle)
3) Misguidance. “What you are eating is really dangerous and could kill you”, “I eat what I want, when I want and I don’t have a problem”, “Just eat everything in balance /moderation”. (Full scale attempt)
Watch out for the idiots who try to smugly convince you that their diet is more “balanced” and “moderate” than yours (while scoffing at your choices). They are usually ignorant about health and diet. “balanced” and “moderate” are subjective terms and everyone’s idea of balanced differs.
4) Stocking the house or supplying junk foods and drinks. Basically, putting temptation in your way.
The list goes on….
How to combat Weight Loss Sabotage
1) Be strong and true to yourself. Learn their tricks and don’t be fooled by them.
2) JUST SAY NO. When being encouraged to drink and eat unhealthy or not to exercise, just refuse, and stick to your guns.
3) Be confident and retain a positive self image. Don’t allow other people to knock your self confidence. Losing weight and being healthy will increase confidence.
4) Some people find it useful NOT to announce dietary and exercise changes when first starting. They just say “I’m full now” or “I just don’t feel like it” rather than announce some big new diet. When people see the results they will get interested and start to ask more.
5) Keep learning about nutrition and exercise, and try new ideas. Self experimentation is an excellent way to learn what works for you. For example, just because you are on a paleo diet, does not mean you have to mirror it exactly. Adapting a diet to your body requirements gives a greater chance of achieving your goals and staying the course.
6) “Never give up, Never Surrender”